Aug. 27, 2012 - The Eye Opener

The Eye Opener
Monday, Aug. 27, 2012

Everyone agrees that excessive drinking is an evil. The alcoholic is convinced that for him it is a necessary evil. He thinks he would surely die if he didn’t drink. We know now that it only appeared necessary while we were doing our thinking with our appetites.

No evil is necessary except in the sense that friction is. Without it, we couldn’t get traction and without traction we could not move onward and upward.

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Aug. 27, 2012 - Today's Gift from Hazelden

Monday, Aug. 27, 2012

Today's thought from Hazelden is:

Have you learned lessons only of those who admired you, and were tender with you, and stood aside for you? Have you not learned great lessons from those who braced themselves against you, and disputed the passage with you? -- Walt Whitman 

Wouldn't it be grand if we could have everything our way! We'd have people at our beck and call. We'd never have to take responsibility for ourselves, never have to struggle for anything, and never be refused any wish or want.

But how would we mature? Learning involves gains based on the effort we expend. We learned early that we couldn't listen to a music box unless we wound it. We learned we couldn't get good grades unless we studied. And now we've learned we can't change our behaviors without working the program.

If we can't see the results of the energy we put into things, then our motivation, determination, and confidence can't grow. Some things will come easily, some won't. But the things we work on now will mean the most in the end.

I am not afraid to put energy into something I really want. I need to do this for my self-esteem.

From the book:

Night Light by Amy E. Dean

Night Light by Amy E. Dean. © 1986, 1992 by Hazelden Foundation

Aug. 26, 2012 - Just for Today

Just for Today
Sunday, Aug. 26, 2012

” …(M)y life has had a purpose, not in great things accomplished but in daily living. Courage to face each day has replaced the fears and uncertainties of earlier years. Acceptance of things as they are has replaced the old impatient chomping at the bit to conquer the world. I have stopped tilting at windmills, and instead have tried to accomplish little daily tasks, unimportant in themselves, but tasks that are an integral part of living fully.” - Alcoholics Anonymous, 3rd Edition, 1976, “Alcoholics Anonymous Number Three,” Ch 10 (“He Sold Himself Short”), p 295.

Just for today, like the man who sold himself short, may I not be self-critical or deflated if something I hope to achieve today isn’t realized because, if I have worked toward it without drinking, I have achieved one of those “little daily tasks” that might be “unimportant in themselves” but “are an integral part of living fully.” If I have gone through the last 24 Hours without drinking, that in itself is an accomplishment of appropriate self-pride, gratitude and inspiration for the next 24 Hours. And if doing today without drinking seems like something not to be fully appreciated, a comparison to what weDIDN’T accomplish on a day of drinking should provide a start to awareness of the magnitude of not drinking today, just for today. And our common journey continues. - Chris M., 2012

Aug. 26, 2012 - Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Sunday, Aug. 26, 2012

AA Thought for the Day
“If we are still clinging to something that we will not let go, we must sincerely ask God to help us to be willing to let even that go, too. We cannot divide our lives into compartments and keep some for ourselves. We must give all the compartments to God. We must say: ‘My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my friends.’”

Am I still clinging to something that I will not let go? 

Meditation for the Day
The laws of nature cannot be changed and must be obeyed if you are to stay healthy. No exceptions will be made in your case. Submit to the laws of nature or they will finally break you. And in the realm of the spirit, in all human relationships, submit to the moral laws and to the will of God. If you continue to break the laws of honesty, purity, unselfishness and love, you will be broken to some extent yourself. The moral and spiritual laws of God, like the laws of nature, are unbreakable without some disaster. If you are dishonest, impure, selfish and unloving, you will not be living according to the laws of the spirit and you will suffer the consequences.

Prayer for the Day
I pray that I may submit to the laws of nature and to the laws of God. I pray that I may live in harmony with all the laws of life.

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Aug. 26, 2012 - A Day at a Time

A Day at a Time
Sunday, Aug. 26, 2012

Reflection for the Day
We all want to be rid of our most obvious and destructive flaws. No one wants to be so greedy that s/he’s labeled a thief. No one wants to be angry enough to kill, lustful enough to rape, gluttonous enough to become ill. No one wants to be agonized by envy or paralyzed by procrastination. Of course, few of us suffer these defects at such rock-bottom levels. Not that that’s reason to congratulate ourselves; chances are, pure self-interest enabled us to escape such extremes. Not much spiritual effort is involved in avoiding excesses which will bring severe punishment.

When I face up to the less violent and less deadly aspects of the very same defects, where do I stand then?

Today I Pray
May I give myself no back-pats for not committing murder or rape, beating up a rival, robbing a sweets shop or stealing from a down-and-outer. In all humility, may I understand that these are only more violent manifestations of human flaws I harbor in myself. May God give me the perseverence to change these from inside, rather than just lessening the degree to which I act them out for the world to see.

Today I Will Remember
Change the inside first.

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Aug. 26, 2012 - The Eye Opener

The Eye Opener
Sunday, Aug. 26, 2012

With fiery zeal we devote much energy to going through the motions of living AA. We speak on every occasion we are invited, we rush ourselves dizzy carrying the message to all who call on us, but in the process we sometimes neglect the one man we are most interested in - ourselves. Our AA has become muscular.

To reach ourselves requires quiet meditation, daily use of prayer and a comprehensive study of the Program and of ourselves.

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Aug. 26, 2012 - Today's Gift from Hazelden

Sunday, Aug. 26, 2012

Today's thought from Hazelden is:

I shall tell you a great secret, my friend. Do not wait for the last judgment, it takes place every day. -- Albert Camus

It is easy to hope that at some time in the future we may redeem ourselves by some great act of heroism or undergo a dramatic conversion. But in the meantime all too often, it's business as usual. Too easily we can become used to our addictive behavior and deny that our acting-out hasn't harmed anyone . . .except ourselves and those we love and who love and trust us. Deep down we knew we were judging ourselves and being judged. Now, each day, we can assess our actions and evaluate our behavior. In this way we learn how our acting out has affected every part of our lives and our relationships.

It is time to change. The longer we wait, the more ingrained are our habits and ways of perceiving and deceiving. If we live a lie, we will be judged accordingly, by ourselves and those close to us. Our program teaches us that we can change and grow and move ahead into the openness and fullness of each new day.

I don't want to come to the end of my life wishing I had freed myself from my addiction. I am glad I have begun the process of change.

From the book:

Answers in the Heart by Anonymous

Answers in the Heart © 1989 by P. Williamson and S. Kiser

Aug. 25, 2012 - Just for Today

Just for Today
Saturday, Aug. 25, 2012

“And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation - some fact of my life - unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.” - Alcoholics Anonymous, 3rd Edition, 1976, “They Stopped in Time,” Ch 17 (“Doctor, Alcoholic, Addict”), p 449.

Just for today, let me not only understand but fully embrace acceptance as a required cornerstone of my recovery from active alcoholism, acceptance that I am absolutely powerless over alcohol and I can never again drink responsibly, acceptance of the consequences of my drinking and that I alone am responsible to them, and acceptance that recovery is more than physical and includes a massive rebuilding of my emotional and spiritual character. If I am simply IN recovery but not WITH it and carry even a hidden resentment that I cannot drink safely or a sense of being wronged because I have to clean up the mess I allowed alcohol to make of my life, the Program’s promise of serenity with myself and the world around me will be elusive. Today, I must seek the humility to ask for absolute - and unconditional - acceptance that my alcoholism is MY responsibility, and so it is with my recovery. And our common journey continues. Just for today. - Chris M., 2012

Aug. 25, 2012 - Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Saturday, Aug. 25, 2012

AA Thought for the Day
“Unless we discuss our defects with another person, we do not acquire enough humility, fearlessness and honesty to really get the program. We must be entirely honest with somebody, if we expect to live happily in this world. We must be hard on ourselves, but always considerate of others. We pocket our pride and go to it, illuminating every twist of character and every dark cranny of the past. Once we have taken this step, withholding nothing, we can look the world in the eyes.”

Have I discussed all my defects with another person?

Meditation for the Day
Never yield to weariness of the spirit. At times, the world’s cares and distractions will intrude and the spirit will become weak. At times like this, carry on and soon the spirit will become strong again. God’s spirit is always with you, to replenish and renew. None ever sincerely sought God’s help in vain. Physical weariness and exhaustion make a time of rest and communion with God more necessary. When you are overcome by temporary conditions which you cannot control, keep quiet and wait for the power of the spirit to flow back.

Prayer for the Day
I pray that I may not speak or act in the midst of emotional upheaval. I pray that I may wait until the tempest is past.

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Aug. 25, 2012 - A Day at a Time

A Day at a Time
Saturday, Aug. 25, 2012

Reflection for the Day
Without freedom from addiction, we have nothing. Yet we can’t be free of our addictive obsessions until we become willing to deal with the character defects which brought us to our knees. If we refuse to work on our glaring defects, we’ll almost certainly return to our addiction. If we stay clean and sober with a minimum of self-improvement, perhaps we’ll settle into a comfortable but dangerous sort of limbo for a while. Best of all, if we continuously work The Steps, striving for fineness of spirit and action, we’ll assuredly find true and lasting freedom under God.

Am I walking with confidence that I’m at last on the right track?

Today I Pray
May God show me that freedom from addiction is an insecure state unless I can be freed also of my compulsions. May God keep me from a half-hearted approach to The Program, and make me know that I cannot be spiritually whole if I am still torn apart by my own dishonesty and selfishness.

Today I Will Remember
Half-hearted, I cannot be whole.

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Aug. 25, 2012 - The Eye Opener

The Eye Opener
Saturday, Aug. 25, 2012

If we think - truly think - our lives will become manageable, and if we thank God who made this thinking possible for us, then our lives are almost sure to remain manageable. We alcoholics can contain our entire philosophy in these two words - THINK and THANK.

Think before you take that first drink, then thank your God that you didn't.

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Aug. 25, 2012 - Today's Gift from Hazelden

Saturday, Aug. 25, 2012

Today's thoughts from Hazelden are:

If you want to change who you are, change what you do.
xxxxxx

The Big Book is like a cookbook - you can read it all day long and starve. You have to take the action.

xxxxxx

If you stay humble, you will not stumble.

xxxxxx

Our neighbor's window looks much cleaner if we first wash our own.

xxxxxx

Yesterday is a canceled check, tomorrow is a promissory note, today is cash in hand, spend it wisely.

From the book:

Keep Coming Back Gift Book by Meiji Stewart

Keep Coming Back © 1995 by Meiji Stewart.

Aug. 24, 2012 - Just for Today

Just for Today
Friday, Aug. 24, 2012

“At last, acceptance proved to be the key to my drinking problem. …When I stopped living in the problem and began living in the answer, the problem went away. From that moment on, I have not had a single compulsion to drink.” - Alcoholics Anonymous, 3rd Edition, 1976, “They Stopped in Time,” Ch 17 (“Doctor, Alcoholic, Addict”), pp 448-49.

Just for today, after living so long in the problem of active alcoholism, let me understand and believe that now, as an alcoholic who does not drink, I am free to live in the answer. By living in the answer, I can be free of fighting the demon of drinking again, free of the fear of being caught and of shame, anger, resentment, loneliness and hopelessness. The problem offers no freedom; the answer does. Let me think and re-think until I understand the fine line between living in the problem and living in the answer and, in understanding, I can begin to loosen the problem’s grip on me and be embraced by the answer. And the answer is the Program - AA - and in the principles it impresses. Today, I no longer have to fight or live in - or with - the problem; I have an answer. And our common journey continues. Just for today. -Chris M., 2012

Aug. 24, 2012 - Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Friday, Aug. 24, 2012

AA Thought for the Day
“When we saw our faults, we listed them. We placed them before us in black and white. We admitted our wrongs honestly and we were willing to set these matters straight. We reviewed our fears thoroughly. We asked God to remove our fears and we commenced to outgrow fear. Many of us needed an overhauling in regard to sex. We came to believe that sex powers were God-given and therefore good, if used properly. Sex is never to be used lightly or selfishly, nor is it to be despised or loathed. If sex is troublesome, we throw ourselves the harder into helping others, and so take our minds off ourselves.”

Am I facing my sex problems in the proper way?

Meditaiton for the Day
Cling to the belief that all things are possible with God. If this belief is truly accepted, it is the ladder upon which a human soul can climb from the lowest pit of despair to the sublimest heights of peace of mind. It is possible for God to change your way of living. When you see the change in another person through the grace of God, you cannot doubt that all things are possible in the lives of people through the strength that comes from faith in Him who rules us all.

Prayer for the Day
I pray that I may live expectantly. I pray that I may believe deeply that all things are possible with God.

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Aug. 24, 2012 - A Day at a Time

A Day at a Time
Friday, Aug. 24, 2012

Reflection for the Day
Some of us, after we’ve taken the Fourth, Fifth, Sixth and then the Seventh Step, sit back and simply wait for our Higher Power to remove our shortcomings. The program’s teachings remind us of the story of St. Francis working in a beautiful garden. A passerby said, “You must have prayed very hard, to get such beautiful plants to grow.” The good saint answered, “Yes, I did. But every time I started to pray, I reached for the hoe.” As soon as our “wait” is changed to “dig,” the promise of the Seventh Step begins to become reality.

Do I expect my Higher Power to do it all?

Today I Pray
May I not just pray and wait - for my Higher Power to do everything. Instead may I pray as I reach for the tools The Program gives me. May I ask now for guidance on how I can best use these precious tools.

Today I Will Remember
Pray and act.

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