Thursday, May 24, 2018

May 24, 2018 - Readings in Recovery: Step by Step

Step by Step
Thursday, May 24, 2018

"Let no alcoholic say he cannot recover unless he has his family back. This just isn't so. In some cases, the (spouse) will never come back ...(R)ecovery is not dependent upon people. It is dependent upon his relationship with God." - Alcoholics Anonymous, Third Edition, 1976, Ch 7, pp 99-100.

Today, understanding why my alcoholism and recovery are dependent only on me and that I cannot make them a condition on what someone else does or how some situation plays out. Just as none of those can be "blamed" for my drinking, neither can they be the reason for my recovery. To place my sobriety on someone or something else does little more than reinforce my refusal to take responsibility and consequences, and exert emotional blackmail on an external source that I cannot or will not stop drinking if I don't get from them what I want. Today, my alcoholism and my character and spiritual defects are my responsibility and no one else's. Likewise, no one and nothing outside of me are responsible for my recovery. And if addiction is as selfish as the program says, then so it is for my recovery. And our common journey continues. Step by step. - Chris M., 2018

May 24, 2018 - Readings in Recovery: Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Thursday, May 24, 2018

AA Thought for the Day
In Twelfth-Step work, the second thing is confession. By frankly sharing with prospects, we get them talking about their own experiences. They will open up and confess things to us that they haven't been able to tell other people. And they feel better when this confession has been made. It's a great load off their minds to get these things out and into the open. It's the things that are kept hidden that weigh on the mind. They feel a sense of release and freedom when they have opened up their hearts to us.

Do I care enough about other alcoholics to help them to make a confession?

Meditation for the Day
I should help others all I can. Every troubled soul that God puts in my path is the one for me to help. As I sincerely try to help, a supply of strength will flow into me from God. My circle of helpfulness will widen more and more. God hands out the spiritual food to me and I pass it on to others. I must never say that I have only enough strength for my own need. The more I give away, the more I will keep. That which I keep to myself, I will lose in the end.

Prayer for the Day
I pray that I may have a sincere willingness to give. I pray that I may not hold back the strength I have received for myself alone.

Hazelden Foundation

May 24, 2018 - Readings in Recovery: A Day at a Time

A Day at a Time
Thursday, May 24, 2018

Reflection for the Day
Getting over years of suspicion and other self-protective mechanisms can hardly be an overnight process. We've become thoroughly conditioned to feeling and acting misunderstood and unloved - whether we really were or not. Some of us may need time and practice to break out of our shell and the seemingly comfortable familiarity of solitude. Even though we begin to believe and know we're no longer alone, we tend to sometimes feel and act in the old ways.

Am I taking it easy? Am I learning to wear The Program and life like a loose garment?

Today I Pray
May I expect no sudden, total reversal of all my old traits. My sobriety is just a beginning. May I realize that the symptoms of my disease will wear off gradually. If I slip back, now and then, into my old self-pity bag or my grandiosity, may I not be discouraged but grateful. At last, I can face myself honestly and not let my delusions get the best of me.

Today I Will Remember
Easy does it.

Hazelden Foundation

May 24, 2018 - Reaidngs in Recovery: The Eye Opener

The Eye Opener
Thursday, May 24, 2018

The only impossible thing in the world is a full conception of the things that are possible.

Within the limits of our lifetime, we have seen many marvels: the transmission of sound and pictures across the continent without visible means; we cook and freeze with the same unit of energy; man can now exert a force of 20,000 tons simply by pushing a button. Nothing seems beyond the vision of the scientist in his study and use of the unlimited forces of Nature.

The power of God, however, is still virgin territory. Man hasn't scratched the surface in his efforts to put this force to work for man. When this is accomplished, the word "impossible" will not be in anybody's dictionary.

Hazelden Foundation

May 24, 2018 - Rise 'm shine for a terrific Thursday that we're going to make awesome


Wednesday, May 23, 2018

May 23, 2018 - Readings in Recovery: Today's Gift from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

Wednesday, May 23, 2018
Today’s thought from the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.
 — Joseph Addison

Having someone to bestow our love on – a child, friend, or lover, perhaps a pet – will provide us with a time each day for intimacy, a time for sharing affection, a time, which assures us our presence is counted on.

But having someone to love is not all we need for happiness. We must have dreams for the future, reasons for getting out of bed in the present, and the well-earned glow that accompanies past achievements. Dreams lose their glamour if that’s all we have. If the reasons for rising don’t excite us any longer, or the achievements ring hollow, we’ll not come to know the happiness for which we’ve been created.

Happiness is our birthright so long as we live fully and love truly.

You are reading from the book:

Worthy of Love by Karen Casey. © 1985 by Hazelden Foundation

May 23, 2018 - Readings in Recovery: Step by Step

Step by Step
Wednesday, May 23, 2018

"It is plain that a life which includes deep resentment leads only to futility and unhappiness. ...But with the alcoholic, whose hope is the maintenance and growth of a spiritual experience, this business of resentment is infinitely grave. We found that it is fatal." - Alcoholics Anonymous, Third Edition, 1976, Ch 5, p 66

Today, understand and accept that resentments are both futile and unhappy and, by holding onto them, these words are gospel: " ...(H)arboring such (resentment), we shut ourselves off from the sunlight of the Spirit. The insanity of alcohol returns and we drink again. And with us, to drink is to die." Because I cannot afford to empower anything so strongly that my sobriety and, maybe, my life are imperiled, I will listen to my Higher Power for the way to release to Him my resentments without taking them back. By holding onto resentment, I must see that I am still spiritually sick and that the sickness can trigger a slip or relapse. Today, I seek with sincerity and humility the courage, strength and willingness to release that which I cannot control - and not take it back. And our common journey continues. Step by step. - Chris M., 2018

May 23, 2018 - Readings in Recovery: Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Wednesday, May 23, 2018

AA Thought for the Day
The Twelfth Step of AA, working with others, can be subdivided into five parts, five words beginning with the letter C - confidence, confession, conviction, conversion and continuance. The first thing in trying to help other alcoholics is to get their confidence. We do this by telling them our own experiences with drinking so that they see that we know what we're talking about. If we share our experiences frankly, they will know that we are sincerely trying to help them. They will realize that they're not alone and that others have had experiences as bad or worse than theirs. This gives them confidence that they can be helped.

Do I care enough about other alcoholics to get their confidence?

Meditation for the Day
I fail not so much when tragedy happens as I did before the happening, by all the little things I might have done but did not do. I must prepare for the future by doing the right thing at the right time now. If a thing should be done, I should deal with that thing today and get it righted with God before I allow myself to undertake any new duty. I should look upon myself as performing God's errands and then coming back to Him to tell Him in quiet communion that the message has been delivered or the task done.

Prayer for the Day
I pray that I may seek no credit for the results of what I do. I pray that I may leave the outcome of my actions to God.

Hazelden Foundation

May 23, 2018 - Readings in Recovery: A Day at a Time

A Day at a Time
Wednesday, May 23, 2018

Reflection for the Day
When newcomers to The Program experience the first startling feeling that they're truly among friends, they also wonder - with almost a sense of terror - if the feeling is real. Will it last? Those of us who've been in The Program a few years can assure any newcomer at a meeting that it is very real indeed, and that it does last. It's not just another false start, nor just a temporary burst of gladness to be followed, inevitably, by shattering disappointment.

Am I convinced that I can have a genuine and enduring recovery from the loneliness of my addiction?

Today I Pray
Please, God, let me not be held back by my fear of recurring loneliness. May I know that the openness which warms me in this group will not suddenly close up and leave me out. May I be patient with my fear, which is swollen with past disappointments and losses. May I know that the fellowship of the group will, in time, convince me that loneliness is never incurable.

Today I Will Remember
Loneliness is curable.

Hazelden Foundation

May 23, 2018 - Readings in Recovery: The Eye Opener

The Eye Opener
Wednesday, May 23, 2018

"God created the world and God saw everything He had made and, behold, it was very good." He gave man dominion over the world and we have badly fouled it up.

This world, with all its wars, crimes, sins and sorrows, is truly our world - not the one God made.

Alcoholics and non-alcoholics alike must get out of the driver's seat, admit we are powerless over our baser instincts and let God take over.

Then our world will become His world again and it will be very good, indeed.

Hazelden Foundation

May 23, 2018 - Let's get going on what we're going to make a terrific Wednesday


Tuesday, May 22, 2018

May 22, 2018 - Readings in Recovery: Today's Gift from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

Tuesday, May 22, 2018
Today’s thought from the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

We can practice forgiveness each day

Resentments have a way of creeping back into my psyche even after I have let go of them. I know that holding a grudge is harmful to my emotional health and can threaten my abstinence, but what can I do when I keep feeling anger toward someone?

In the interest of recovery, in my own best interest, I can continue to forgive each day. I may not be able to forgive the person once and for all, but I can do it right now, just for today. With practice, who knows? Perhaps the resentment will disappear.

When I remember that my own track record is far from perfect, I realize I could use some daily forgiveness too, both from others and from myself.

Just for now, I can let go of resentments and forgive. If resentments come back, I can forgive again.

You are reading from the book:

This book is now out of print and no longer available to purchaseInner Harvest by Elisabeth L. © 1990 by Hazelden Foundation

May 22, 2018 - Readings Recovery: Step by Step

Step by Step
Tuesday, May 22, 2018

Today, reach into my past to measure the enormity of my present and try to grasp the scope of the life that sobriety has given me. Whereas I once was helpless, hopeless, weak, apathetic, pathetic, selfish and destructive, today I have hope, strength, selflessness, compassion, passion and the courage born of humility to treat sobriety with awe and respect. While I cannot and do not want to live in or return to yesterday, I also do not want to forget it; its lessons can steer me from the same mistakes today. And all I have left behind and gained what I have now is through sobriety and, therefore, my sobriety is my No. 1 priority for. Without it, I have nothing except for all I pray I left behind. And our common journey continues. Step by step. - Chris M., 2018

May 22, 2018 - Readings in Recovery: Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Tuesday, May 22, 2018

AA Thought for the Day
What impresses us most at an AA meeting is the willingness to share, without holding anything back. And pretty soon we find ourselves sharing also. We start telling our own experience and, by so doing, we help the other person. And when we've got these things off our chest, we feel a lot better. It does us a lot of good to share with some other poor unfortunate person who's in the same box that we were in. And the more we share, the more we have left for ourselves.

Do I know that the more I share, the better chance I'll have to stay sober?

Meditation for the Day
Constantly claim God's strength. Once convinced of the right of a course of action, once reasonably sure of God's guidance, claim that strength now. You can claim all the strength you need to meet any situation. You can claim a new supply when your own supply is exhausted. You have a right to claim it and you should use your right. A beggar supplicates, a son appropriates. When you supplicate, you are often kept waiting, but when you appropriate God's strength in a good cause, you have it at once.

Prayer for the Day
I pray that I may claim God's strength whenever I need it. I pray that I may try to live as a child of God.

Hazelden Foundation

May 22, 2018 - Readings in Recovery: A Day at a Time

A Day at a Time
Tuesday, May 22, 2018

Reflection for the Day
When I first listened to people in The Program talking freely and honestly about themselves, I was stunned. Their stories of their own addictive escapades, of their own secret fears and of their own gnawing loneliness were literally mind-blowing for me. I discovered - and hardly dared believe it at first - that I'm not alone. I'm not all that different from everybody else and, in fact, we're all very much the same. I began to sense that I do belong somewhere, and my loneliness began to leave me.

Do I try to give to others what has been given freely to me?

Today I Pray
May I begin to see, as the life stories of my friends in The Program unfold for me, that our similarities are far more startling than our differences. As I listen to their accounts of addiction and recovery, may I experience often that small shock of recognition, a "hey-that's-me!" feeling that is quick to chase away my separateness. May I become a wholehearted member of the group, giving and taking in equal parts.

Today I Will Remember
Sameness, not differences.

Hazelden Foundation