Saturday, January 10, 2015

Jan. 10, 2015 - Today's Gift from Hazelden

The Serenity Prayer
Saturday, Jan. 10, 2015
Today's thought from the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Who Knows Best?

Others do not know what's best for us.

We do not know what's best for others.

It is our job to determine what's best for ourselves.

"I know what you need." . . . "I know what you should do." . . . "Now listen, this is what I think you should be working on right now."

These are audacious statements, beliefs that take us away from how we operate on a spiritual plane of life. Each of us is given the ability to be able to discern and detect our own path, on a daily basis. This is not always easy. We may have to struggle to reach that quiet, still place.

Giving advice, making decisions for others, mapping out their strategy, is not our job. Nor is it their job to direct us. Even if we have a clean contract with someone to help us - such as in a sponsorship relationship - we cannot trust that others always know what is best for us. We are responsible for listening to the information that comes to us. We are responsible for asking for guidance and direction. But it is our responsibility to sift and sort through information, and then listen to ourselves about what is best for us. Nobody can know that but ourselves.

A great gift we can give to others is to be able to trust in them - that they have their own source of guidance and wisdom, that they have the ability to discern what is best for them and the right to find that path by making mistakes and learning.

To trust ourselves to be able to discover - through that same imperfect process of struggle, trial, and error - is a great gift we can give ourselves.

Today, I will remember that we are each given the gift of being able to discover what is best for ourselves. God, help me trust that gift.
You are reading from the book:
The Language of Letting Go © 1990 by Hazelden Foundation

Jan. 10, 2015 - Step by Step

The Serenity Prayer
Step by Step
Saturday, Jan. 10, 2015 
"AA has become a way of life and living for me. It has brought about a revelation of self, the discovery of an inner being, an awareness of God.
"I wouldn't give it up or trade it for anything. And the only one who can take it away from me is me - by taking that first drink." - Alcoholics Anonymous, 3rd Edition, 1976, "They Stopped in Time," Ch 7 ("A Teenager's Decision"), p 355. 
Today, perhaps my deadliest enemy is not alcohol or the "contributing factors" that I came up with to "blame" for my alcoholism; maybe my greatest enemy is myself. If I am fighting an urge or temptation to drink or if I haven't yet gone into recovery, how I react to either is my decision and responsibility, and no one else's. If a slip is pending, or if I continue to drink because I think I'm either not ready to quit or the state of my life makes sobering up uninviting, the consequences are mine and mine alone if I pick up the next drink. Let me look to the Fourth Step to identify the emotional and spiritual weakness or sickness that fuels my self-destruction. Today, I have no desire to give in or give up. And our common journey continues. Step by step. Chris M., 2015

Jan. 10, 2015 - Twenty-Four Hours a Day

The Serenity Prayer
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Saturday, Jan. 10, 2015

AA Thought for the Day
When we were drinking, most of us were full of pride and selfishness. We believed we could handle our own affairs, even though we were making a mess of our lives. We were very stubborn and didn't like to take advice. We resented being told what to do. To us, humility looked like weakness. But when we came into AA, we began to be humble. And we found out that humility gave us the power we needed to overcome drinking.

Have I learned that there is power in humility?

Meditation for the Day
I will come to God in faith, and He will give me a new way of life. This new way of life will alter my whole existence, the words I speak, the influence I have. They will spring from the life within me. I see how important is the work of a person who has this new way of life. The words and the example of such a person can have a wide influence for good in the world.

Prayer for the Day
I pray that I may learn the principles of the good life. I pray that I may meditate upon them and work at them, because they are eternal.

Hazelden Foundation

Jan. 10, 2015 - A Day at a Time

The Serenity Prayer
A Day at a Time
Saturday, Jan. 10, 2015

Reflection for the Day
Since I came to The Program, I've become increasingly aware of the Serenity Prayer. I see it on literature covers, the walls of meeting rooms, and in the homes of new-found friends. "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

Do I understand the Serenity Prayer? Do I believe in its power and repeat it often? Is it becoming easier for me to accept the things I cannot change?

Today I Pray
God grant that the words of the Serenity Prayer never become mechanical for me or lose their meaning in the lulling rhythms of repetition. I pray that these words will continue to take on new depths of significance as I fit life's realities to them. I trust that I may find the solutions I need in this prayer which, in its simplicity, encompasses all of life's situations.

Today I Will Remember
Share the prayer.

Hazelden Foundation

Jan. 10, 2015 - The Eye Opener

The Serenity Prayer
The Eye Opener
Saturday, Jan. 10, 2015

Alcoholism, or compulsive drinking, is incurable. We have seen too much evidence of the fact to believe differently - yet, occasionally, some of us get the idea that we are exceptions to the rule. Then the Rat Race begins all over again.

We are alcoholics. We must admit it and accept it as one of those things we cannot change.

Hazelden Foundation

Friday, January 9, 2015

Russia bans trans people from having driver's licenses

Advocate.com: Jan. 9, 2015 - Russia Now Says Trans People Can't Have Driver's Licenses | Advocate.com

Gay brother of 'Conscious Choices' minister has his say

Dexter Edwards
Advocate.com: Jan. 9, 2014 - Gay Brother of 'Conscious Choices' Minister Speaks Out | Advocate.com

Op-ed: Sorry, but your husband IS gay

Advocate.com: Jan. 9, 2015 - Op-ed: I’m Sorry, But Your Husband IS Gay | Advocate.com

Five difficult roadblocks men can overcome

The Good Men Project: Jan. 9, 2015 - 5 Difficult Roadblocks Guys Can Overcome -

Facing the reality of sibling sexual abuse

The Good Men Project: Jan. 9, 2015 - Facing the Reality of Sibling Sexual Abuse -

With 'nothing left in the closet,' a gay father comes out

The Good Men Project: Jan. 9, 2015 - A Gay Dad Comes Out, "There's Nothing Left in My Closet" -

Rubio: Courts don't have authority to overturn gay marriage bans

U.S. Sen. Marco Rubio (R-Fla.)
LGBTQ Nation: Jan. 9, 2015 - Marco Rubio: Courts don’t have the power to strike down gay marriage bans – LGBTQ Nation

Appeals court today hears gay marriage cases from Mississippi, Texas and Louisiana

LGBTQ Nation: Jan. 9, 2015 - 5th Circuit to hear appeals in Louisiana, Mississippi, Texas marriage rulings – LGBTQ Nation

Now legal in 36 states, same-sex marriage to get another review by Supreme Court

Associated Press: Jan. 9, 2015 - Now legal in 36 states, Supreme Court to take another look at same-sex marriage – LGBTQ Nation

Jan. 9, 2015 - Today's Gift from Hazelden

The Serenity Prayer
Friday, Jan. 9, 2015
Today's thought from the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

If you do not express your own original ideas, if you do not listen to your own being, you will have betrayed yourself.
 -- Rollo May


Those of us who go around trying to be right and do everything right are likely to betray ourselves. We stifle our impulses and control our intuition because we can't be certain that we are correct. As a spiritual exercise, we could stop now and listen to our inner selves and state our own ideas. What comes out may break the illusion of perfection and free us to proceed with life.

We all have original ideas if we just notice them. What images come to mind while listening to music? What do our dreams tell us? New insights sometimes come by physical activity. Conversation with a friend can help lead us to our wisdom. Our growing strength in recovery requires that we listen to our own messages and then take some risks to express them.

Today, I will take risks by stating my ideas. I will stand up for myself by listening to my intuition.
You are reading from the book:
Touchstones ©1986, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation