Friday, Sept. 16, 2022
Today’s Gift from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:
Shame can hold us back, hold us down, and keep us staring at our feet. —Beyond Codependency
Watch out for shame. Many systems and people reek of shame. They are controlled by shame and may want us to play their game with them. They may be hoping to hook us and control us through shame.
We don’t have to fall into their shame. Instead, we’ll take the good feelings — self-acceptance, love, and nurturing.
Compulsive behaviors, addictive behaviors, overeating, chemical abuse, and addictive gambling are shame-based behaviors. If we participate in them, we will feel ashamed. It’s inevitable. We need to watch out for addictive and other compulsive behaviors because those will immerse us in shame.
Our past, and the brainwashing we may have had that imposed “original shame” upon us, may try to put shame on us. This can happen when we’re all alone, walking through the grocery store or just quietly going about living our life. Don’t think …Don’t feel …Don’t grow or change …Don’t be alive …Don’t live life. Be ashamed!
Be done with shame. Attack shame. Go to war with it. Learn to recognize it and avoid it like the plague.
Today, I will deliberately refuse to get caught up in the shame floating around in the world. If I cannot resist it, I will feel it, accept it, then be done with it as quickly as possible.
Hazelden Foundation
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