Friday, Oct. 9, 2020
Today’s Gift from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:
Just as we took refuge in being special, we can learn to take refuge in being ordinary, not being in charge, not being the center of the universe. — Wayne Muller
In our addictive and codependent minds, we were prone to feeling special. We felt grandiose about our power to fix others, or about our power to walk on the edge of danger and not get hurt. We thought we could handle things that most people couldn’t. Some of us felt especially bad and shameful, more shameful than everyone else. We thought recovery was fine for others, but it wasn’t what we needed, or it wasn’t going to work for us.
True self-esteem is not based on feeling special or better than others. A large ingredient of true self-esteem is self-respecting humility. We are all much more alike than we are different, and we are connected to each other on the basic levels of life and death, pain and joy, and the need to give and receive love. When we make friends with other men and really let them know us, we feel our common humanity and a strong sense of self-acceptance and self-esteem.
Today, I will notice my connection with all others, the people I like and the ones I dislike, the people I know and the people who are strangers.
Hazelden Foundation
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