Step by Step
Monday, Jan. 21, 2019
“Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.” – Step Nine
Today, this, the Ninth Step, may be second to the Fourth in the courage, strength, honesty and humility. Each of us in our drinking days inflicted some injury on someone else, and the Ninth suggests we apologize and make amends to them. Why? Responsibility and consequences. The rare exception to extending an amend is if doing so would inflict more hurt on anyone else, for example, someone who isn’t aware that they were wronged and would suffer if the wrong is admitted. Making amends is not truly altruistic, though. In giving voice and accepting responsibility and consequences of our misconduct, we start the process of reconciliation. But not everyone can be expected to accept our amends. If the injured party has heard it before or if the injury cuts too deep, we must be prepared for rejection. Then, our greatest amend may well be to stay sober. Today, my sincerest amend to anyone I have hurt will be my sobriety. And our common journey continues. Step by step. – Chris M., 2019
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